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We share our Top 10 Tips To Get Invited To Play which are the best where you make such a good impression that the sexiest people in the room invite you to come and join them! At Swing Social we have many new members turn up to our events expecting the whole room to swarm them and wanting to play and party, but sometimes you need to follow our Top 10 Tips To Get Invited To Play so you make the most of your attendance to any of our play parties: 1. Go with the flow! This means walking in with zero expectations of getting in with the coolest, sexy people at the party but hey, if it happens, bonus!  People instinctively know when someone comes in with expectations; those who are casual about the whole thing are unconsciously more attractive. 2. Be interested in them  which means do more listening and less talking about yourself, your conquests, your magic pleasure skills and how awesome you are in bed… ugh. 3. Respect the partners! Oh this is a big one.  If you want to get invited to join a couple you need to get the approval from the one you could be seen as being in competition with.  This means building rapport with them, listening to them, not grabbing or making advances with their partner in front of them without asking if it’s okay first.  They are the gatekeepers, you need to impress them almost more than the one you want to get naked with. 4. Don’t dive in before the Dive Master says go! There is room in this lifestyle for being a bit bold but the quickest way for the door to be closed to your potential invitation is to cop a feel, go in for a kiss or go to rip their clothes off before they’ve actually given some sort of confirmation, sign, neon flashing light to say ready, willing and what-the-hell-are-you-waiting-for?  Oh and no ALWAYS means no. If you hear it, move on.  End of story. 5. Take your time. Don’t be in a rush to get them from “hi” to “what’s for breakfast?”  In this lifestyle couples are looking for quality so they aren’t in a rush and are put off by people who are pushy and try to rush things. Well unless you are in the dominant/submissive thing but that’s a whole other article. 6. Be fun and easy to talk to! This means being relaxed and being you. Be conversational, fun and a bit flirtatious without going overboard.  It’s the people who are comfortable with themselves and easy to connect with that get the invitations.  Also know that if being yourself doesn’t lead to a connection then they probably aren’t your peeps. When you connect with your kind of people, the fun and pleasure are awesomely amplified! 7. Ditch the drama and gossip! When you’re getting to know a new couple, don’t talk about other people you’ve been with or know about, no need to share the dramas they are going through or the scene they made at the last party.  What happens in the head of the people you’re talking to is “what if they’re talking to someone else and share things like that about us?!?”  Don’t be THAT guy/girl. People want to know that you can be trusted and keep a secret… blabbering about someone else says the opposite. 8. Build the relationship! Even once you get the invitation to join in keep building a relationship with the partner of the person you can’t wait ravage or pin up against the wall.  If their partner starts to feel like you’re moving in on their territory, if there is any scrap of insecurity or jealousy then you’re going to trigger it and then all hell and zero-fun breaks loose.  The partner is the bouncer even after you get past the VIP rope so keep that in mind.  At ALL times. 9. Look and smell your best! This one is really a no-brainer! Hygiene people, hygiene. 10. Compliments. Respond to compliments, we all like to be told how sexy, intelligent, amazing, interesting we are (and don’t forget to compliment the partner somehow too).  Like all things though, best in moderation. It’s really not hard to shine and stand out above the crowd, sometimes it just takes time to find your perfect matches so be patient and enjoy the ride!

The adage says that variety is the spice of life. But does it apply to threesomes? Of course, but what’s it all about? Threesomes are increasingly popular because they offer three people access to each other’s uniqueness and pleasure. They involve trust and intimate knowledge of your partner’s body. Everyone gets more attention when there are three people than in a dyad or monogamous pairing, so no individual has to worry about feeling neglected or unloved. What is a Threesome? A threesome is a sexual encounter between three people, where there are no restrictions on who has intercourse with one another. It can be two men and one woman, two women and one man, or any other combination. It doesn’t matter if all partners are heterosexual. There are many general rules and guidelines to follow when arranging threesome sex: 1. Consent must be given by all the parties involved. They must agree if you want to do a threesome with your partner. If they say no-go today and tomorrow, that’s it – you can’t push them as it would make you appear a possessive/controlling type. However, if this is not the case (three people agree), you will have no choice but to respect their decisions and move ahead with your plan.  2. Everyone should agree on who the third person is. If you are a man, your wife can bring a female friend or vice versa. If you have a girlfriend, she can invite her best friend over for lunch, and after wine, the number of people can increase – make sure you both agree beforehand.  3. The person bringing the ‘third party must have a good relationship with their partners. Don’t worry too much if they had an affair with someone in the past, as long as it was resolved beforehand and everyone is comfortable with it afterward. If you agree, the 3-way sex will be more exciting.  4. Each person needs to have a good understanding of the sexual nature of their partner. If you don’t know how your partner performs in bed, they may not know what turns you on either. Therefore, if you are an ‘average Joe,’ and your wife is turned on by seeing two men interact sexually with each other, telling her that you have no idea how to act as a bisexual man will only kill the mood (not to mention maybe ruin your relationship).  5. It’s best to get consent from any guests before they arrive at your home (unless they come directly from work). If they stay the night and then leave in the morning, you’ll have no idea what they got up to.  6. No one should have sex with someone who has just come to the party (unless your partner is not sexually active and doesn’t know what to do). Sexual threesome acts have a way of getting out of hand. The last thing you want is someone being bored and trying something else because they are drunk.  7. Everyone at the party needs to be on their best behavior as it will reflect on you if you misbehave or get drunk. Only drink when you treat this as a social gathering – never let alcohol get in the way of sharing your passion for each other’s bodies! Conclusion Threesome sex can be fascinating. It allows you to express your sexual fantasies in a safe and non-judgmental environment. You will enjoy being part of something bigger than yourself and see that you are loved as an individual. You can be sure that if you agree with your partners, they will be on board with your desires and also respect your needs. Staying alcohol-free helps to avoid any mishaps or unwanted behavior from guests at the party. Coming clean to your partner first is a must, so there is no awkwardness later on when enjoying sexual activities again.      

A swinger party is an event where attendees are mainly couples looking to swap partners. Swingers are more likely to practice safe sex and wear protection than non-swingers. They usually want to create a fun and safe environment for all participants to enjoy the activities.  A successful swinger party depends on acceptance from their locality’s community and willingness to work with the party’s rules. One of the main reasons for an established swinger club’s success is that it offers in-house entertainment where people can feel comfortable being themselves, enjoying a lovely evening out with their partner(s), and possibly meeting new friends. In addition, swing social curates events for local swingers to enjoy a judgment-free zone with like-minded individuals.  A modern swinger’s party is often centered on drinking, dancing, and socializing with other couples in the area. Swingers typically also appreciate having an excellent clean space where they can get dressed up and enjoy themselves in a classy but fun atmosphere. In addition, swingers often enjoy decent food and the opportunity to dress up and go out on a date with their partner(s). What to Expect At a Swinger Party If you are attending your first swinger party, it is highly recommended that you dress appropriately. Remember, most people attending this event will have a relationship with one or more individuals. So, making an excellent first impression is always a nice idea.  Most swinging couples have boundaries to best fit their relationship, so discuss this before swapping any partners. Swinging can look so different depending on the couple or person participating. It is essential to be open to discussion and be transparent in expectations. Always be on the same page as your partner because you may have two different expectations. Rules with your partner can always be adjusted depending on how comfortable you get with other partners, locations, or even the lifestyle.  To avoid misleading, it is recommended that both sexes begin conversations with new people only if an existing member of the opposite sex is invited. Be Prepared to be Social Suppose you are a single male interested in more than just dancing. In that case, it is recommended that you wait until you have established a connection with your partner before inviting her to join you in another activity. As mentioned previously, the success of a swinger’s club depends on its acceptance by its local community and its willingness to accommodate its rules. Swingers are usually not out to interfere with the lives of others and so should be pretty considerate when participating in their community. Respecting the other attendees at a party can help make it a safer and more enjoyable experience for everyone involved. But, don’t be scared to be social. Like in everyday life, Swingers gravitate towards their friends or people they have had previous connections with; this doesn’t mean that people won’t be open to meeting new couples. Enjoy your Time Although swinging may not be for everyone, it especially won’t work if you are unwilling to communicate. Give it a fair chance, and ensure you’re comfortable with whatever steps you make. The swinging community should always feel like a welcoming and judgment-free zone. So, whether you’re prepared to make a big leap or baby steps, it should feel right to your boundaries! Most importantly, don’t forget to have a good time with Swing Social!    

You know what they say about people in glass houses, right? It’s easy to throw stones but hard to live in the shadows. In this seemingly innocent age of swingers life, it’s imperative not to exclude anyone from your moral standards. If you participate in the swinging lifestyle, you know many stigmas are attached. Society’s idea of swinging is an image of long parted couples, sexy divas, and trophy wives. To summarize, there’s a lot of baggage associated with it. If you are a non-swinger, you may feel that the idea of swinging threatens societal norms. But, swinging is a lifestyle choice you decide to make with a partner if you are both open to a new adventure. A swingers life maybe be complex, which is why swinging requires trust and communication. You can’t go through the early days of swinging without building trust and respecting one another’s boundaries. If you do this, your partner will feel safe and secure to express themselves in whatever way they want. Transparency is key when it comes to swinging. swinger couples If your relationship is already secure, you don’t need to worry about it falling apart over swinging. You can express all those feelings of need, desire, and fantasy. Your partner will be able to express themselves the same way. You’ll have a new outlet for your desires. If you’re already a swinger, know that other people are trying to live their life as they see fit without hurting anyone else. They want the same things as you – love, acceptance, and fun. Meeting new people and learning new things don’t go against what you believe in. It enhances it. swinger life If you’re a closet swinger, take the first step today. Admit that you have fantasies beyond what you experience with your spouse and start expressing them to your partner. Only then can both explore each other’s boundaries and build on each other’s trust until both of you feel safe enough to try swinging or another alternative lifestyle. The decision to swing cannot be made lightly. It’s a matter of finding the right balance between your partner and yourself and sharing your life with someone that respects these boundaries without creating conflict and problems within your relationship. Conclusion Both partners need to understand and be comfortable with the concept of swinging before they can act on it. In a vulnerable situation where trust is vital, both partners should be open and honest – no matter how uncomfortable it might make the other feel. Various events in the swinging community could be an excellent baby step to the lifestyle. Learn more with Swing Social!